Fear

For those of you who do not know, I attend college in Northern Virginia in the Washington, D.C.  metropolitan area. With a father in the military we've moved around a lot and my parents currently reside in Hawaii. Recently I was asked "aren't you scared to be over there by yourself?" to which I responded quickly and honestly, "no, not at all". This wasn't the first time someone has brought it up to me, but this was the first time I have actually really thought about it. No, I'm not scared to be across the country and the ocean from my parents. Seriously, I'm not. The real question to me isn't "are you scared?" it's "what is there to actually be scared of?"

I've never been scared to do what I want. I don't say that in a way to brag or seem super confident or even naive, it's simply the truth. I was never raised to approach my goals filled with fear. It honestly blows my mind when people say stuff like "I want to do this but I'm too scared to" or "I really want to visit this place but I'm scared". While fear is obviously normal it should never ever stop you from doing what you want. When it came around to talking and applying to college I immediately knew I wanted to go out of state (out of state being out of North Carolina at the time). Besides the fact that I despised being there, I knew that there was so much to the world beyond the town I was living in and I wanted to be able to see all the world has to offer me. I constantly got questions and comments like "how could you want to be so far away from your parents", "I could never do that I don't understand why you'd want to go so far away", or "you mean you've never lived there or have family there and you're going to college there now?!". I never let comments like that instill fear or discouragement in me as those comments typically came from people who were too scared to step out their own comfort zones.

While I sometimes overthink things and as a result get scared, I NEVER let the insecurities or fears of others stand in MY way of doing what I want. If you're scared of doing something right now, stop and think if this fear is self-inflicted or if someone else is trying to push their fears onto you. If it's self-inflicted, have a heart to heart with yourself and ask yourself why you're scared and how you can improve this. If it's someone else, really evaluate what this person's opinion means to you. There's a Japanese proverb that goes "Fear is only as deep as the mind allows". Change the way you think about situations and instead of approaching them with fear, approach them with positivity. It's all in your mind and out of all the things that are unchangeable in the world, the way you view situations isn't.

Ciao for now,
Sydney